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Decay

DecayI have recently been caused to think about decay * and in so doing I have been reminded of my general preference for things that are slightly past their prime (with the exception of food – over-ripe fruit makes me gag).  In an age that is fixated on the new and “perfect”, the patina of age is under-appreciated.  I have come to realize that I rather like the weather-beaten, the well-worn, and the slightly crumpled.  Faded glory perhaps.

* admittedly a different train of thought, but very worthy of your next five minutes:

https://malcolmguite.wordpress.com/2014/12/11/in-praise-of-decay-and-against-plastic/

 

 

 

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One

Thing.  At. A. Time.

Kids.  Trite as it may sound, that’s generally the way to get things done, however big the task.  I know from experience that it can be paralyzing when faced with a huge job. Where to begin?  How to get through it? Will it ever end?

It’s May 2018 and I am just coming to the end of a downsizing project that involves opening up 1,600 boxes of personal belongings.  Personal effects which had been accumulated over the course of a sixty year marriage, many of which had not seen the light of day for decades.  Their owners had put them away, hoping to get to them soon.

However big the project, just start somewhere.  As you persevere you will find a way through the task.  You will build momentum that will carry you through to the end.  What starts out like a confusing jumble will gradually clarify. And before you know it, you will be at the end, marveling at the truth of my opening statement.  One. Thing. At. A. Time.

Rest

Vision

To be part of a community which lives simply and is filled with joy, blessing, and purpose.

Mission

To foster community through listening, reflecting, communicating, encouraging and serving.

Purpose

To live a joyful, present and authentic life that is filled with blessing, encouragement and service to others.

Why

Most of my adult life I have struggled with the difference between Purpose, Mission and Vision.  It seemed important to me to work out what mine are, but how can I do that if I can’t discern the difference between the three?

This spring I joined a group of half a dozen earnest men to talk about Purpose, Mission and Vision.  Our leader Tim suggested that we could think of the three words as follows: Purpose is your “Why?’, as in “Why are you here?”.  Mission is your means of getting to your destination.  The engine that propels you.  The “How”, if you will.  And Vision is the “What”,  as in “What does your destination look like?”.

A key learning for me is that we tend to start with What because it’s tangible and easier to grasp.  We then work our way to How, and hopefully reverse-engineer our Why.  And of course that would be backwards.  We should start with our Why and work through our core values.  Once we are confident that we have crafted our Purpose then our Mission and Vision follow naturally.

I will share my Purpose, Mission and Vision in the next three posts.  They are far from perfect, but I think they do sound like me.

No

If you’re not proud of it, don’t serve it.

If you can’t do a good job, don’t take it on.

If it’s going to distract you from the work that truly matters, pass.

If you don’t know why they want you to do this, ask.

If you need to hide it from your mom, reconsider.

If it benefits you but not the people you care about, decline.

If you’re going along with the crowd, that’s not enough.

If it creates a habit that costs you in the long run, don’t start.

If it doesn’t move you forward, hesitate then walk away.

The short run always seems urgent, and a moment where compromise feels appropriate. But in the long run, it’s the good ‘no’s that we remember.

On the other hand, there’s an imperative to say “yes.” Say yes and build something that matters.

by Seth Godin

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2016/03/on-saying-no.html

Important advice, but included here for my remembrance.  My kids haven’t inherited my chronic amiabilitis.  They already know how to say no.

Thanks to my friend Tim who shared this with me.

Slow

“I like walking because it is slow, and I suspect that the mind, like the feet, works at three miles an hour.  If this is so, then modern life is moving faster than the speed of thought, or of thoughtfulness.”

I have always “felt” this to be true, but I have had neither the wisdom nor the eloquence to put it into words.  It makes sense to me that living, working, and making decisions at light-speed comes at a cost.  Only time will tell at what cost.

 

Wanderlust – A History of Walking, Rebecca Solnit

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